08/11/2010 05:00 AM

Child Wellness: Separation anxiety

By: Marcie Fraser

It's a natural part of a baby's growth, separation anxiety. In today's Child Wellness report, easing your child's stress when it comes to separating.

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It's hard to believe that a few stages of your child's growth are normal. The separation anxiety stage, crying, clinging, screaming but according to the experts, it's a part of growing up.

It's not uncommon; children refuse to either go to anyone else but their parent or perhaps get hysterical if a parent leaves the room. It peaks around the preschool age but can start much earlier.

"You will see separation anxiety in infants as young as two, three, four five months old because obviously, even at that point, they are beginning to accommodate and become familiar with their surroundings," said Dr. Manny Cirenza.

In a child's mind, once a parent leaves the room, they aren't coming back.

"What they are experiencing is some sense of abandonment that their mother or father are going away and not coming back, with that being said we all know that is not the case," Cirenza said.

The transition can take time; parents need to be patient and nurturing.

"Let them know you do care about them, they you do love them and you will be back and then communicate how you understand how they feel and in so doing they begin to get validation as to how they are feeling," said Cirenza.

Make it a bit easier on your child, before you go out make sure your child is fed, and is not tired and be sure the time you are away, is kept short.

In addition, parents, don't worry, separating from your child will allow them to be secure, at least down the road.

"To think that having them pushed out of the nest long term and being damaged long term is somewhat inappropriate, however, that is one of many experiences that can be traumatizing for kids and so it's probably that can be more of an accumulation of events that potentially impact negatively on a child's," Cirenza said.