Child Wellness: Teaching children to learn from failure
Who likes to fail? It's difficult, especially when it's our kids. But teaching our children how to rebound after failure is a natural part of growing up. Marcie Fraser explains.
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"Parents are failing to allow their children to feel uncomfortable, they are too quick to fix the situation that may give the child an opportunity to grow just by feeling discomfort," said Meghan Lemery, a psychotherapist.
The feeling of discomfort can be an opportunity for growth. When your child has an issue with another child in a play group, do what you can to stay out of it.
"When there is a problem within the peer group, the parents are quick to call and talk to one another about the difficulty in the relationship. I suggest to talk to the child first, give them suggestions as how to speak to the person they are having the problem with, what you do for your child in that situation is give them the skills necessary to communicate in an adult relationship," said Lemery.
How do we protect our kids if they don't make a sports team?
"Not making the team is not necessarily a negative thing and your child can learn much more from practicing and working hard and it can be a much sweeter goal than having your parent call the coach and complain that your child is not on the team," said Lemery.
What do you with the child who makes the team and wants to quit?
"When we raise our children to be quitters or we allow them to get out of situations that may cause discomfort we are handicapping them for a successful future,” said Lemery.
How do you know if you are too involved? You may find your child is sharing less and less of their personal information. There is a fine line as to how involved a parent should be.
"While you want to be there to support your child emotionally, spiritually and physically, give them room to figure out your own solutions and what works for them," said Lemery.