"It's always been my dream to have Tim's case solved."
Debbie Milgate-Moyer is known as an advocate. She has worked to keep the memory of her brother alive.
Tim Milgate was murdered in his Greece home almost 20 years ago. The case remains unsolved.
"In my heart, I solved his case because I've never let go."
These days, Debbie's thoughts have turned inward.
"I don't know how, I'm fighting for my life."
Earlier this summer, Debbie was diagnosed with MDS, or myelodysplastic syndrome. It's a disease that effects the blood and bone marrow, and was once known as pre-leukemia.
"I looked like a punching bag. The bruising was just getting really bad, and it turned out that I was very sick."
Sick enough that doctors decided Debbie needs to have a bone marrow transplant. They looked first at her siblings. Debbie's three brothers underwent testing, and she got the news late last week that two of them are a match.
"I'm very lucky. I have a long road, and now it's the dual; who is the match they're going to use, because they have to pick one."
Thursday, Debbie checks in at Wilmot Cancer Center to begin weeks of chemotherapy and prepare for her transplant. Debbie knows how this treatment can affect a family, having lost her mother to cancer years ago.
"You either survive it, or you don't, and I'm gonna be one of the survivors."
Although Debbie will be undergoing treatment at Wilmot, a bone marrow drive in her honor will continue as planned on Oct. 29 at Cosgrove Middle School in Spencerport. Flyers will be circulated this weekend.
"This is Deb's drive as far as making sure that we continue on with her goals and her objectives with it, and if it isn't a match for her because she found one, it will be a match for someone else," said volunteer Peggy Duffy.
As Debbie waits to receive the gift of life, she knows she's been blessed in four ways. Two brothers are a match, and the other two are watching over her – one from above.
"Timmy is always with me. There's no doubt, I feel Tim. I feel my mother. I don't think people ever leave you. They're in here. Those memories never go away, they give you the inspiration to move on and keep doing."